It’s the 27th of Feb today but I wanted to let you know that for the month of March 2017 I am choosing to live cleanly.
To me that means no alcohol and no naturally grown substances…. for legal requirements, let’s say no added sugar.
But if I were to think
“But life is only fun when I <insert a vice here>”
I then asked myself the question “Has there ever been a time when you have had fun without? <vice>?”
It’s one of the things I have been noticing a lot with my thinking. If my thinking starts to go into an emotional place, rather than a relaxed one, I try to question my thought. I use the “how would I feel, if I thought a different potential scenario was true”
I hope if doesn’t mean I’m going to second guess myself at every opportunity. However, if the first thought is only to serve me negatively is that helpful?
Yes I agree the first thought might be about a negative situation. For example if I were to break down on the way to an important meeting. I could either lament over the potential lost deal, the additional costs and time delay or ..
I could choose to view those things as just things that were negative and just happened. Is there a difference? Let’s have a look at one of them.
The lost deal: Missed the meeting and lost the deal. Negative thinking could be “Never find a client like this, chance of a lifetime, need the cash etc”
Now it’s a very fine line between what I am going to type and it reading like positive thinking hype. For me at least, it is a about a balance. For example I could say “maybe it could be a yes later down the line, they might review it, I have plenty of money”, would that really help me?
I guess I could feel happier inside and that is a good thing, right? The “I have plenty of money” thought really interests me. If you are looking at
Balance: £23.54 Available
thinking you have plenty of money might be a hard task.
What is the middle way? It could be something like. That client could have been a great one but they chose not to go with you. What can you do today to either
1) find out for sure if the client is lost. 2) Take a step forward in getting another client as some money is better than none. 3) Or do something else to feel like you have acheived something.
If there were any rules in this it would be to try to look at the situation from a view other than the one you have right now.